Posted by: Kristi
Author: Melissa Michaels
Why I decided to read this book: I had come across this book several times from various blog posts. I was curious how it would be different from The Nesting Place: It Doesn’t Have to Be Perfect to Be Beautiful which I loved! I pretty much consider being a wife, mom, and keeper of the home my full-time job so books that give insight into those areas often make it on my reading list.
Who do I recommend to read this book: I have to be honest. I didn’t love this book. It was ok, and I definitely got some take aways from it, but I don’t recommend it for everyone. It felt a little too formulaic..like follow these 5 steps and this will be the outcome. With that being said, I would recommend this book to a woman who likes a lot of structure when trying to decorate and thrives on specifics. She would also of course need to have a residence where she is the primary decision maker of keeping the home – this includes renters or women who aren’t married or don’t have children!
My biggest take away from the book: We have a unique situation in our home in that my husband works from home and I stay home with the kids..yes that makes one big generally happy family spending lots of time in the same space. He is employed in a traditional job setting with expected hours so its not the “own your own business, set your own hours” scenario.
One way Melissa Michaels challenges her readers is to “establish warm welcome traditions that make coming home the sweetest part of everyone’s day.” This really struck me because I fear my husband doesn’t always enjoy coming home. He may travel to a meeting in the morning, come home to do some more at “the office,” and then head out for a late afternoon meeting. However, he almost always has a super excited toddler (and wife) to greet him at the door even when he is in the middle of his work day and is in work mode. This has been difficult for us to find a balance between enjoying the benefits of being home, often eating lunch together, and seeing snippets of family, but still maintaining a conducive work environment.
Again, this a somewhat unique situation to our family and may not be shared by many others, but even in its uniqueness, I want our home to always be a place of refuge – even when my husband’s work place is in our home. Working through this specific challenge, along with developing a purpose statement and defined style for our home were my greatest take aways.
What I think the author wanted me to take away from the book: I think Melissa Michaels wanted her readers to realize that the actual structure of your house does not determine your home at all. Home is found in your style, your routines, and enjoying what you love.
My favorite aspect about this book: At the close of every chapter, thought provoking questions were included to help you apply what you read to your specific situation. This helped me focus in on anything I want to think through further or just keep reading if I didn’t feel the need to go deeper.
My least favorite aspect about this book: As mentioned above, sometimes I found the book to be too formulaic. For me, it felt like too many processes to get to the desired result.
Any additional thoughts: Melissa Michaels offers some online resources that compliment Love the Home You Have. One of the worksheets stood out to me as something that would help me.
If you’re interested in seeing my worksheet answers, I’ve included them below!
I want my home to feel:
Real or Authentic
A room in my home that needs the most attention: Family room
Four home projects I’d like to work on:
1. Add a fireplace surround
2. Re-tile master shower
3. Add moulding to the kitchen cabinets to make them reach the ceiling
4. Decorate our master bedroom
(I tried to include things that we need to hire done and things that I can do myself)
Four areas I want to organize or declutter:
1. Master closet
2. Basement storage area
3. Basement living space
4. Levi’s closet
New traditions or memories I want to make in our home: I don’t have a specific answer for this one; it didn’t strike me as something to fill out in detail. I simply want to be ok with our memories and traditions being in a whole different location than what I expected for our family.
Our Home’s Purpose Statement:
(This is a work in progress!)
Our home is a comfortable and relaxing place for our family to feel loved, safe, encouraged and inspired. Our home is also a place to welcome in others for a time to feel loved, safe, encouraged, and inspired.